Dalia is a sultry brunette who gives as good as she gets. She is 22 years old. Her hourly rate is $800. She enjoys dressing up in lingerie, and she also enjoys watching silly horror movies. She is a firm believer in listening as the first line of defense when it comes to relationships. She thinks men in this world don’t get enough attention and are not listened to enough, and as a result, relationships that might otherwise work out are left to wither and die. She considers this a terrible waste and thinks that love and companionship are the most important things in the world. Dalia also prides herself on being a truly fearless person.
“I tell myself every day that I’ve got to live without fear,” she explains. “Fear is that force that stops you from enjoying your life. I’ve talked to some of the other girls about this. When you think about it, what stopped you from achieving the greatest dream you’ve ever held? You might be quick to say that you didn’t have the money, or you didn’t have the time, or you didn’t have the skill to do something you had always wanted to do. Maybe you just weren’t in the right place at the right time, right? But the fact is, if there is something you want to do, if there is something you want to accomplish, the number one thing holding you back is you. You undermine yourself every day. You fear consequences. You fear risks. You aren’t willing to put yourself out there and just kind of put it all on the line.”
Dalia continues, “The fact is, though, that if there’s something you want, something you truly want, you’ll find a way. You’ll go out of your way to schedule the time you need. You’ll make sacrifices and you’ll give up other things in order to get that goal. In other words, what you do shows what is really important to you. There’s this exercise that people do in those touchy-feely counseling classes and, I don’t know, maybe in other things too. You take a piece of paper, and you divide it up into four squares, or eight squares, or however many you want for the exercise. On each piece of paper you right down the things that are most important to you. Like, if you have eight squares, you right down the eight things that matter to you most, the eight things that absolutely mean everything to you and that you can’t live without.”
Dalia goes on, “Then what you do is you take away one thing. You say, ‘These are the things that I can’t live without, but if I have to sacrifice one of them, I choose this.’ And you keep doing that. You do it over and over again… until you have just one square. If you have been honest with yourself, that one square represents the one thing that is most important to you in the entire world. This is a great way to really confront yourself with what matters to you. When you understand what really matters, you can set better goals, and you can be the best person you can be. I think that’s a great way to approach life.”
Getting away from fear, taking away its power, has allowed Dalia really to enjoy herself as a young woman. “When fear has no power over you,” she says, “that means you recognize the ways in which it interferes with your dreams. That means the ways it stops you from getting, or keeping, what is important to you. I don’t ever want fear to stop me from attaining my goals. The thing about fears is, the longer you avoid them, the bigger they become. It’s like being told that there’s a vicious wolf in the forest and it’s your job to kill it. If you put it off, if you avoid the wolf, you’ll be safe as long as you aren’t in the woods. But the wolf has more years to get bigger, stronger, more experienced, and more dangerous. The longer you put off your task, the more dangerous the wolf becomes, to the point that you can’t ever go into the woods out of fear of what might be waiting for you. I think that’s a great metaphor for how to live.”
Dalia’s love of lingerie extends to the type and kinds of underwear she dresses in. “I don’t ever want to leave the house wearing anything but my sexiest lingerie,” she says, “even if I don’t believe anyone will see me in it that day. I think you owe it to yourself to be and feel sexy all the time. Don’t wear lingerie just for others. Wear it for yourself. You’ve earned it.”